In lieu of mother's day, I think it is important for each of us to tip our hats to the mother's of the world. Without them, well, we wouldn't exist. I've become the person that I am today based on very important guidance from some of the best women I know.
Some say that behind every man is a strong woman, and I certainly defend the validity of that argument. However, I'm sure that there are a ton of men out there that have strong women that they don't even deserve. In fact, the point of this blog is to insist that any woman stuck with an idiot moves on. Yet somehow, I consistently see an innumerable amount of people settling for less than they deserve. Note: This scenario also applies to men settling for idiotic women. After a great deal of brainstorming on why this issue exists, I've come up with a few thoughts and potential explanations.
In high school, some of us dated one person for a long period of time. At some point, we said or thought, "I want to spend the rest of my life with this person." And for most of us, that ended up not being the case. I am not saying that high school sweethearts never get married or that it never works out. I am just saying that the great majority of us had, in fact, not found our soul mate at the age of 18. So, for most of us, we broke up and moved on.
Then college comes, and most of us have at least one substantial relationship in those four years. And, at some point we either said or thought, "I want to spend the rest of my life with this person." Again, the great majority of us found ourselves being wrong. This may have occurred for a multitude of reasons, but ultimately, at the age of 23, we came to the realization that we had not found our soul mate. So, for most of us, we broke up and moved on.
After college, we dated someone else. And, again, for most of us it just didn't work out. But we tried, and we tried really hard. We did this because at this point, it was of utmost importance for us to find the one. If we didn't marry the person we dated after college, how will we ever find someone else to marry?
It is usually around this point that I hear people (particularly women) say, "I am going to be single forever" while they shovel their favorite flavor of Ben and Jerry's ice cream into their mouth with a tablespoon. COME ON PEOPLE. Forever is a long time, and those years PROBABLY won't be filled with singality (I just made that word up, but it works). The point is, you will not be single forever. If you are, you would have to be trying very very hard to make sure that you don't woo anyone from now until forever.
You know why people think that they are going to be single "forever?" Because, society tells us that we should have found our significant other in our 20s, and that we should be married by 30. The same person that decided this set of generic rules was probably the one that married their boyfriend from the ninth grade.
STOP. I can't take it anymore. Get ready, because like always, I'm about to give you the truth.
I do not think it is remotely possible to meet your true love in college. Unless there is a correlation between amount of beers you bong, football games you attend, and attaining your soul mate.... this simply can't be true. I think that people try to convince themselves that they are dating the person that they're going to marry, because they are trying to mold into society's idea of a happy life.
I'd like to make my own rules for eternal happiness, thanks.
No one but you knows what makes you happy. So, if you are in your twenties and find yourself dating someone that you realize isn't the one, LET THEM GO. Dating an idiot in your twenties doesn't mean that you have no choice but to marry them... it means that you can chalk up another general loss and move onto someone new that isn't an idiot. So, here is the problem.... We (as a society) are settling. We are settling for people that just don't deserve us, and we're doing it for absurd reasons. There is a reason that divorce rates are higher than ever, so play it smart people. If you're 30 and you aren't married yet, I think you should get a medal. By 30, you've probably dated a fair amount of people and you haven't married any of them yet. This classifies you in the "I have a backbone" category. Congratulations.
At this point, anyone that is young and married has written off my blog for life. If you are young, and married, and happy- this simply doesn't apply to you. But if you are young, married, and hate your life- you've unfortunately become apart of the large group of people that this blog is about. I'm not picking on anyone here, I'm just stating pure facts in order to cause an epiphany for the masses. #SorryI'mNotSorry.
For the love of God, people, please ditch the idiots. Don't marry someone just because you're out of college. Marry them because they love you more than you ever knew was possible. The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than what you settled for. While I won't slander anyone's name here, I will say that I practice what I preach, and if you ever find yourself in a situation that involves you needing to ditch an idiot, call me and I can give you a pep-talk.
Here's to never settling,
Xoxo
