Gooooood morning and happy Tuesday to you all! Since most people had a long weekend, I thought that my blog should be posted at the beginning of everyone's work week. I worked yesterday and it was crazy busy but fun, of course. After your elongated weekend, you may have a little bit of trouble getting a start to your four day work week. Allow me to help you.
Before I get into this week's topic, I'd like to extend a sincere middle finger to every person that saw me out on Saturday night and bought me a drink. There is no way possible that anyone saw me and said "Wow, Nicole looks thirsty" or "Nicole is very sober right now." As fun as it was waking up on a stranger's couch and walking 8 blocks to my car at 8a.m., those friends that bought me alcohol on Saturday night were no friends of mine come Sunday morning. And for that, I thank you.
In a conversation with one of my kiddos at work, I learned that she was verbally abused and bullied by some classmates at her school. I won't go into the details of what was said or what was done, but I will say that it was downright disrespectful, tasteless, and immature. With that being said, it was horrendous to see such a beautiful person being so negatively effected by the hurtful words of others, especially at such a young age. Now, since all of my readers have been in high school in the last 10 years, or are in it now, matters like this are extremely relevant.
It is absolutely depressing that there are people in the world that attain happiness from the sheer fact that they destroyed someone else's day. If your life is so pathetic that you need to take out your bad mood or terrible attitude on someone else, then you should be on moral house arrest because there is no reason to pass on your shit mood or negativity. Making fun of other people doesn't make you any cooler. Calling someone fat doesn't make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid doesn't make you smarter.
In fact, every single time that someone says something negative about someone else, they should really be asking themselves what is so wrong in their life that they feel the need to bring other people down with them. Instead of focusing on other people's imperfections, we should focus on the betterment of our own lives and moral compass. If everyone could live by this idea, the world would legitimately be a better place to live. Specifically, middle school and high school would be a place that kids went to strictly learn, and not a place where they avoided everyone that they felt threatened by.
Words can hurt. And after someone tells you something over and over and over again, you start to believe it, no matter how wrong you may have initially believed their opinion was. But, at the end of the day, the only person whose opinion should matter is your own. If you are happy with your body, with your intellect, with your morals... don't let any one else change your mind.
I may not have seen it in high school, but I think that all of my older audiences can agree that what happens to you in high school: who you're friends with, what sports you play, and how others view you, has absolutely no impact on the person that you become.
You may not have noticed then, but every single person has a cornucopia of unique and unbelievable characteristics to offer. In fact, every single person that you come into contact with in your life has something to offer the world, no matter if you choose to see it or not.
While you may not benefit from each person you meet, they are valuable to someone. They may be an amazing brother, sister, son, daughter, cousin mother, father. They may tutor young kids in math, they may volunteer at the local food bank, they may build houses for the homeless. Someone out there loves them unconditionally.
At the end of the day, who are you to make the judgement that their existence is any less important than your own?
We're all human. Let's start acting that way.
Everyone out there is different, everyone is a valuable asset to the earth, and everyone is beautiful... no matter what any idiot has to say about it.
So next time someone makes fun of the girl next to you in class, stand up for her. She could be the president someday and while she will probably forget the person that made fun of her gym shoes, she won't forget the one person that was on her side.
Here's to not saying anything at all if we don't have anything nice to say,
Xoxo
