Happy last day of 2013!
The following lessons are tidbits that I've leaned in the last year. It is my aspiration that those reading this will save themselves many headaches and potential embarrassment in their future life endeavors.
1. When people continuously talk a lot about who they are as a human being; it is usually false advertisement.
If someone seems like they are too good to be true it's because the image that they have painted for you is a dramatic misrepresentation of their actual existence. It's entirely up to you to decide how long will allow the fairy tales to unravel before your eyes as you ride a unicorn through the gumdrop forest. The moral of the story is; do not listen when people talk about themselves, let them show you who they are.
Hint: When one prefaces sentences with, "It's not that I think that I'm better than everyone else but..." with regularity, it's actually because the dip shit honestly believes they are better than everyone else.
(Yes, I said dip shit).
2. Immaturity exists at every age.
In 2012, I firmly believed that everyone in my age group had the mind of that age group. However, when a 25-year-old woman told a labyrinth of lies about me it really bothered me. So much so that I ate a bowl of meatballs while crying at my parents kitchen table. See, I'm not happy ALL of the time. Anyway, once that loser was out of our lives forever via termination of employment, I thought that I would never have to deal with another immature person that was over the age of a middle schooler ever again.
I was blatantly wrong.
In 2013 the maturity of those in their 20s hopped on a submarine and took a nice little trip to the bottom of the ocean floor. Top reason for immaturity amongst women in their 20s that just can't stop talking about you: jealousy.
Bringing me to my next lesson.....
3. Women are crazy.
I mean absolutely, positively, out of their minds, off their rockers, need-to-be-institutionalized crazy. Now, let me say that I have spent a great deal of time defending our gender, I really have. But the performance that some of you had in the last year is worthy of an Academy Award. I request that some of you spend the early portions of 2014 making up fake scenarios and deciding what potential reactions would be appropriate or inappropriate for those situations.
If your reaction involves a)lashing out on social media b)showing up somewhere unexpected or uninvited c) shouting at an ungodly volume or d)texting someone that you have never meant before then you need to get back to the drawing board because you have the reaction and decision-making capabilities of a toddler.
4. Embracing change and taking risks are essential components to a happy and successful life.
I've never heard someone say that they accelerated their career or enhanced their relationships or quality of life by staying exactly where they were. Take risks as a challenge and run with the opportunities that life presents to you. Those people that matter in your life; they will stand behind you through it all. Distance is no roadblock to love and support.
Take a chance because, more than likely, the juice is worth the squeeze.
5. Laughter really is the best medicine.
The best days of 2013 and of my life were those that I spent laughing with my friends. If you are having a bad day or you find yourself in a terrible mood, you need to reach out to a person that you know can make you laugh. Even if the gratification is temporary, it is necessary. This is one of the best pieces of advice that I have to offer. If you don't have a person that can make you laugh then give me a call and I will do my best to cut the tension.
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With the end of the year upon us, I think that it is very important that everyone takes some time to look back at the last 364 days to remember what 2013 had to offer to them: are you happy with your life? Your job? Your living situation? Your relationship? Your family? Your friendships? Your social status? Your body? Your health? Did you take advantage of bettering yourself over the last year?
More importantly: what did we give to others in 2013?
If you found yourself on the receiving end last year, I urge you to spend 2014 giving. Giving doesn't necessarily come in the form of monetary donations or pricey vacations or over-the-top presents or bending-over-backwards favors. Just knowing that there are people, or even one human being on this earth that cares about your life can sometimes make all of the difference.
People need people. We need to know that we have each other's backs. We don't need to write big checks, we just need to exist. We need to be there for others and we need to be approachable for friendships, for happiness, for support for anything that can lighten someones burdens.
Here's to 2014~ this is your year!
Xoxo
